Thursday, January 28, 2010

NYC Seminar on 4 February 2010

My friend Sixty will host a "Fast Escalation & Club Game Seminar" in New York next week. He will cover the first part, and I'll do the second. There is also a chance to attend a special one-hour consultation afterwards.

Thursday, 4 February 2010
7 pm

Click this link for details and registration: moved to a new server

The server issues of the last few days should now be solved for good. My former host Host Media UK messed up a few things while performing a standard update. Dealing with their customer support turned out to be a rather frustrating affair. With the help of one of my friends, my website is now hosted by Just Host.

The issue with Host Media UK was that their customer support, which apparently got farmed out to an Indian call center, was not up to the task of restoring a .htaccess file. My conversation with those people ended up looking like a parody. The highlight was them restoring my old Wordpress blog, which I told them (in capitals!) to leave untouched and removing the redirection to my Drupal installation -- after I told them to do the exact opposite.

Maybe my experience was unique, but if you are looking for hosting with competent customer support, I would think twice before even considering Host Media UK.

Tuesday, January 26, 2010

Review: Organic Seduction (ebook) by Jonathan Green aka LondonPaladin

Some time ago LondonPaladin, a member of the London Seduction Society, sent me a complementary copy of his ebook “Organic Seduction: Seduce and Girl in 7 Days” and asked for a review in return.

First of all, a book with a subtitle as pompous as this one raises a huge red flag for me. Anybody claiming to be able to seduce any (!) girl is either a charlatan or setting incredibly low standards for himself. But maybe I am wrong and Jonathan Green is able to teach me something I didn’t know in this 35 pages -- yes, thirty-five pages! -- long piece of work. If you subtract the cover, legal images and space for “notes” you get less than thirty pages of content. This might not be bad if the quality was top-notch (to spoil the surprise: it isn’t). However, what I find especially fishy is that on his web site he doesn’t even mention how little this ebook contains.

But onto the actual content: the book begins with standard mainstream advice, some of which is completely irrelevant. In fact, having no candles in my room in an apartment that is rarely absolutely clean, as my girls can confirm, has never prevented me from getting laid. Other points are either vague or irrelevant. How should a piece of advice like “wear clothes that make you feel sexy” help anybody who is completely clueless about fashion?

Things get creepy soon enough: “Over the next year you will talk to 1000s of women. I talked to over 7000 last year.” Personally, anybody who really has his act together does not have to talk to a plethora of women to get laid. Before I entered a committed relationship last summer, I rarely had to approach more than three girls a night -- and I got laid plenty. The same is true for the handful of friends of mine I consider evolved seducers (as opposed to “pickup artists”). Some pages later he writes that you should have standards, but how can anybody claim to have standards if he has to approach thousands of women? Further, I don’t quite see how “seducing any girl” and the author admitting or claiming to need having to approach over 7000 to have sex with a very small fraction of them go together.

What further annoyed me that Jonathan Green spreads some negativity about women: “I honestly believe any woman who rejects me is a fool.” Sorry, buddy, but if she doesn’t want you she doesn’t want you. If this makes you resent her, then you should work on your attitude first. A passive-aggressive mindset will affect your life negatively in every area, so this point alone is enough to question this ebook. There are many more questionable things, though, but not everything is bad.

Unfortunately, the "good" parts of the book don't amount to much more than basic conversational skills with some bad pickup advice scattered in between. I do appreciate that he has a chapter on honesty, especially since a lot of mainstream pickup advice is the exact opposite. Overall, though, I get the impression that he doesn’t get to the point. His writing style simply leaves too much to be desired. Throwing in some anecdotes that don’t even get to the main issues doesn’t do it at all.
Case in point:

“I went snowboarding in Austria last month, which is very difficult for me. You go fast and you are out of control. On top of a mountain. All things that are really hard for me. But I love it. There is something pure about being alone on a mountain and just staring nature in the eye. All of these things help me to develop my inner sense of self.”

Too much of this book is like this paragraph: vague and superfluous, and badly written. This section was taken from a chapter on confidence. How this description relates to confidence is not entirely clear, though. It's flowery, poetic language, where some specific hints for the reader would have been the better choice.

The worst comes at the end, though.

Surely some of you remember this cartoon panel by Gary Larson: the most important piece, the researcher writes: “Then a miracle occurs!” The colleague says "You should be more explicit here in step two!" This is also how I feel when Jonathan Green finally approaches seduction. Indeed, he should have been a bit less vague on how it goes from kissing a girl to having sex. Too bad this book leaves out this most important part. So, I talk to a girl, chit chat a bit, kiss her -- and then I take her home to have sex with her. Sure, this is how it eventually looks like, but what about the specifics? It's like your math teacher telling you before the test: you pick up the pencil, answer those questions, and get an A, without having you taught the required knowledge. But nothing can go wrong since you've sharpened your pencil. Good luck on that exam!

Monday, January 25, 2010

When talk faces action

I took a trip to Philadelphia on Saturday. Because I had arrived at the bus stop a bit too early, I idled some time away at the closest Starbucks, treating myself to some nice orange blossom tea. I sat down on a bench. Next to me were two Asian girls, one of which did all the talking. When she saw me, she shut up, looked up and gave me a coy smile. I smiled back, only to continue reading Malcolm Gladwell’s Outliers.

It wasn’t that easy to focus on the reading, because that girl was unstoppable. She was talking about guys, boasting about going to Harvard, what a guy should be in her eyes, and all that stuff. Some minutes later she had to leave, though, and dragged a trolley behind her. She was still talking excitedly to her girlfriend. Then she almost bumped into a guy while walking backwards, getting her heavy trolley out of the corner. He didn’t want her to bump into him, so he put a hand on her shoulder. She stopped. He walked past. He was walking upright, was unshaven and certainly did not look like the kind of guy that would fit the alleged bill of that talkative Harvard girl. But guess what happened!

The moment that guy touched her and she saw him, she completely shut up, in mid-sentence and was looking after him. Her eyes were wide open and she hectically groomed her hair with her other hand. This went on for about ten seconds. Then she left Starbucks as well, still not saying anything to her friend and seemingly looking after this guy.

What does this tell you about what girls subconsciously want and what they say they want? Update

My site is back, but there are still some issues left. My host f*cked up some things and by now I am really tired of them. In the next few days I'm going to migrate to a new server, which will hopefully bring back my forum and access to my newsletter.

Wednesday, January 20, 2010

More server issues

For the time being, my website is down. I have contacted customer support and hope they can fix it. I don't know what the problem now is. My best bet is that my webspace provider f*cked things up.
If you need to contact me, please send me an email:

I am sorry for the inconvenience.

Sunday, January 17, 2010 issues -- solved!

I have noticed that my main website is down. The reason seems to be that my host NameCheap is down, probably this is due to a DDOS attack.

Let's hope they'll fix the situation soon. I am sorry for any inconvenience this may cause.

EDIT: Apparently the problems have been taken care of. Everything is back to normal.

Tuesday, January 12, 2010

Becoming skinny and (slightly) muscular

Looks do matter. If you want an easy way to improve your success with women, improve your image. Hit the gym, get clothes that fit you better and find a gay hairdresser to get a cutting edge cut. Those steps will be much more effective than memorizing yet another "routine" (don't even get me started on this issue).

I am a very lean guy. While I don't fit the classical image of male beauty, enough girls seem to like my body. However, the advice in men's magazines and bodybuilding forums is usually geared toward bulking up, but what if you wanted to become really lean?

For your information, my level of body fat is around five percent. One of the more interesting compliments I have received was that I was skinny and brawny and therefore "the best of both worlds."

One of my readers recently wrote:

At your seminar [in London], I noticed you had the same body type as me but that you were slightly muscular and seemed to be more lean.
I am a skinny guy also, but I find when I eat, it all goes to my stomach and nowhere else. In advertising and mens mags there are only the steryotype of muscle man, which is why I havent bothered with them in years. Whereas you are a real life guy who eats some stuff and drinks some stuff also.
Do you have any tips on how to get your type figure?

I am aware that people react differently to different kinds of food. Nonetheless, this is what keeps me in shape:

  • avoid sugar as far as possible (yes, this includes chocolate and ice cream)
  • skip sauces
  • eat lots of fruits and vegetables
  • dairies
  • have plenty of carbohydrates: wholewheat bread, pasta, beans, potatoes, bran, rice, and cereals
  • exercise

This diet is rather minimalistic (and also very cheap, for those that worry about their budget). Yet, it's very healthy and will probably improve your general well-being as well.

One of my goals is to exercise more. I used to be much more active, but these days I still do some yoga exercises, squats or push ups every day. Swimming is also excellent, and it certainly makes you want to eat those big bowls of pasta salad.

I switched to this diet in my late teens after having grown a bit too tired of my mother's cakes and cookies. During that time I also got into Zen meditation and read books like Marcus Aurelius' Meditations, which had a profound effect on me. I life a fairly spartan life since then --- and nobody who sees me nowadays wants to believe me that I was an overweight teenager.

Saturday, January 9, 2010

The "Smelling Opener"

My girlfriend provides me with plenty of interesting stories about the courting behaviour of other men. Usually it's pretty lame stuff and, yes, she can recite a couple of "community lines" from way back, but what she experienced earlier this week recently was in an entirely different league.

Many guys apparently have no idea how socially awkward and creepy they come across, which is something "balls" don't really overcome. Now that guy at first sat down in the metro, looked at her and then quickly took a seat right next to her --- and tried to smell her cheekbone. This happened on a weekday afternoon. Maybe he was still drunk from last night.

In any case, if you think you aren't creepy enough yet and want to bring your "game" to a new level, here is something to play around with.

Friday, January 8, 2010

Travel Plans for January and February 2010

This is just a quick note on where to expect me up until the end of February. I will be in Rotterdam on 15 and 16 January, in New York City form 18 January until 12 February, and in Amsterdam from 25 to 28 February.

I will soon post notes regarding all the events taking place. There will be seminars in Rotterdam and New York City, and a conference in Rotterdam (I am staying in Amsterdam, though).

A new blog, a new start

Apparently I just can't keep my mouth shut. A mere week after deciding to give up my self-hosted Wordpress blog I am back. This time it's on blogger because I like this platform a lot.

But what happened with your previous blog? Well, some people may find it interesting or even entertaining to play around with software configurations, source code and whatnot. But I am not one of those people. I want simplicity and ease of use. Especially the former made me switch back to blogger.

This must be the second or third blog I've had. The first one was simply a collection of posts from mASF, which was hosted on It did work fairly well, but eventually I hosted my own. Then it struck me to make it the foundation for my website Unfortunately, the limitations of Wordpress as a CMS became fairly obvious and I switched to Drupal for the site, and kept a separate blog until it became to burdensome to produce content and maintain the system.

Now I am back on blogger. Back, you may ask? Yes, because I have a private archive of all my naughty stories on blogger since this was and is the most convenient way for me to keep a diary. No, I won't ever open it to the public. Sorry. I like to tease people, though. It doesn't matter because a good part of it appeared in my book Sleazy Stories. There is already enough content for a sequel to this book, but this probably won't appear for a few years.

In the meantime, check this blog often for updates, reader questions, rants and the occasional article.